Quitting Mistakes To Avoid (1)
First of all, congratulations! It is a big quitting victory and the gold medal is yours, with all our admiration and respect.
We think you deserve all smokers’, ex-smokers’ and never-smokers’ admiration for your decision to quit tobacco and nicotine for ever – this time – in spite of your big fear to gain weight or meet other unbearable health troubles, and in spite of your lack of selfconfidence after having tried unsuccessfully so many times before.
You have worked daily, minute by minute your victory, you stood up firmly for your decision. Nicotine and the so called “friends” could not lure you anymore. You did not repeat the old quitting mistakes – only that and it would be sufficient to gain everyone’s respect – you allowed us to help you prevent new quitting errors, and the outcome is brilliant: free of tobacco and nicotine for 275 days with no quitting regrets after so many years of smoking, plus the perspective to never, ever allow to be controlled and manipulated by tobacco and nicotine, nor by any other addictive drug.
As you could see, it would have been a huge quitting mistake to follow all the same quitting steps in the same sequence as you did on your previous, unsuccessful attempts. Quitting is a personal experience, not a general one. Each smoker is unique, each one having his or her own quitting top best reasons and needs in order to become tobacco and nicotine free for ever. To think that’s enough to just copy other quitters’ approach (without adapting, completing, personalizing your own experience) and become a successful non smoker is just an ordinary quitting mistake.
You were extremely surprised when you were advised to not schedule any days off – this time- for initiating the quitting process.
The <days off> method did not work for you before. In your case it would have been just one more quitting mistake to repeat. Your choice was to avoid it. Congrats for that! Focusing some special days only on giving up the stinking habit , eliminating daily labor and current activities inside and outside the house during those special days seem to work only for about 30% of successful quitters– as a part of the famous “cold turkey” or not necessarily related.
You needed to stay away from cigarettes as a usual behavior, all time long: at home, at work, in and out, day and night, alone and surrounded by others, not as something special for the days off.
That is why, in stead of a useless – from the point of view of a successful quitting – short holiday, you were invited to read and document well your quitting decision and, after many years and many previous holidays with tobacco and nicotine, to change and early book a 5 stars free of smoking elegant cruise around the marvelos places you’ve always wanted to descover. You were astonished to see how great things can be done with the money you have chosen to save from being burnt.
We noticed very little enthusiasm on your face – and voice – ( “ I did not like school and I thought I finished with it some time ago…” ) about writing down your PERSONAL QUITTING LIST with your personal top best reasons for quitting tobacco and nicotine, but since being shown how to and since doing it, you had uncountable ocasions to see how necessary and useful it was. You needed to have THE LIST under your eyes just for a look, to refresh some details from time to time or to read it completely several times a day, almost every day. During the whole process of quitting you used to add better and more detailed explanations to the initial quitting motives in order to make them crystal clear and even more relevant for you than before, in the beginning, when you had discovered and named them. Besides you used to enrich your LIST with new quitting reasons whenever you detected new ones that could easily aply to you, too, thus getting a more and more complete and reliable backup for your decision.
After so good and passionate work to have an updated LIST, it would have been a huge mistake to forget about it and about the top best reasons for doing what you wisely had decided to do. Few seconds of self forgetfulness might have given nicotine the occasion to gain – again – and might have transformed all the work into smoke.
In order to prevent that, you had several copies of your up to date QUITTING LIST always at hand and in sight: in the smartphone, on the desktop and also nearby the screen of your computer, on both sides of all doors, a magnified one near the TV, a colorful one in the bathroom, on the right side of the mirror and some minimised copies inside the car and inside the pockets of the jeens, of the jaket and of your favorite bag.
A decision to quit smoking for good WITHOUT a rock solid motivation, detailed in your PERSONAL QUITTING LIST of YOUR TOP BEST REASONS TO QUIT TOBACCO AND NICOTINE it would have been a beginner’s mistake that you successfully avoided.
We listened carefully to your story about your electronic cigarette – that had come to you as a birthday present meant to help your endeavor to quit smoking, that was lost 2 weeks after starting to use it and was immediately replaced by a pack of the well known slims newly bought, almost in panic of remaining without something to smoke, as if that would have been a catastrophy to prevent…(!?)
We surprised you explaining that e-cigs are not at all quitting instruments. Quitting tobacco and nicotine is meant to cut the chain of addiction and not to bring it to another level, replacing the paper wraped addictive cigarette -or cigar- with the plastic/ceramic addictive e-cig. The addiction itself is created and maintained by the very powerful drug called nicotine. All e-cigs contain nicotine. If it weren’t nicotine in the common cigarettes, it would not exist tobacco addiction and almost no one would accept to burn garbage into their mouth and inhale the smoke into the chest every day for a life time; also if it weren’t about nicotine, quitting tobacco for ever would be piece of cake for all smokers all over the world.
The very fact that after 2 weeks of e-cig you looked eagerly for your previous tobacco slims, points to other quitting mistakes you successfully managed to avoid:
1)very often smokers – and not only – ignore their dependance and consider smoking just a… habit, while in fact it’s a strong drug=nicotine addiction;
2)the process of quitting is taken as anything else but what it really is: the cutting of a deeply rooted addiction that controlls the brain, the behavior and the every day life of the smokers;
3)nicotine, the enemy of all quitters who want to stay for ever free of the drug and of their addiction is too little known and insuficiently understood by smokers and quitters and, therefore very difficult to beat.
To be continued